Navigating Success with Gentle Influence:
A Guide to Achieving Goals the Nice Way

For some individuals, it’s hard to fathom the idea of achieving success the nice way, whereas for others, this is the only way to achieve success. Today, I want to explore a few simple things we can do that can elevate our interactions, leave a lasting impact, and do this while adding value and building connections along the way. And, it starts with the transformative qualities of kindness, empathy, collaboration, and positivity, and learning how each of these can contribute to creating a positive and influential presence.

Recognise that Kindness is a Superpower

Kindness goes beyond being just a virtue; it’s a superpower that can reshape the dynamics of our interactions, making them stronger than before. By approaching conversations with kindness, we can create an atmosphere of warmth and trust. The advantage of this is that it allows you to influence others positively, and when that happens, you are more likely to create an impact.

We can implement this in our own lives by:
Practising small acts of kindness daily, both at work and at home, and observing the ripple effect it has on our surroundings.

Empathy in Action

In the nice way of building success, empathy is not just a skill but a crucial ingredient. Only when we can understand others’ perspectives can we really connect with them on a deeper level and foster that sense of understanding and respect. This not only strengthens relationships but also allows you to tailor your approach for greater success.

We can implement this in our own lives by:
Actively listening to others, seeking to understand their feelings and thoughts before expressing our own.

Building Bridges, Not Walls

What would happen if the focus shifted to actively listening and learning from the other person? The idea of persuasion shifts when it’s centred around creating a WIN-WIN outcome rather than convincing. The idea of building bridges centres around the understanding of creating a harmonious environment where both parties feel heard and valued.

We can implement this in our own lives by:
Focusing on finding common ground in discussions, seeing where the other person is struggling, and then aligning shared goals and objectives.

The Influence of Positivity

Positivity isn’t just a mindset; it’s a force that can shape the outcome of your endeavours, and if done correctly, it is contagious. By intentionally creating interactions with the mindset to elevate them and make them more positive, whether through a genuine smile or an encouraging word, you create an environment that becomes conducive to success.

We can implement this in our own lives by:
Practising maintaining a positive outlook even in challenging situations, observing its impact on problem-solving and team dynamics, and thinking about what we are grateful for in a situation rather than what is not going to plan or others’ behaviours.

Winning Through Collaboration:

Success is always much harder when done alone; in fact, it is nearly impossible. Embracing a collaborative approach ensures that everyone involved feels like a valued part of the journey, and it is when everyone feels included and valued that the magic within teams happens.

We can implement this in our own lives by:
Encouraging open communication, celebrating collective achievements, and continuously reinforcing the idea that success is a team effort.

To learn more about this topic, head to episode 47 on my podcast, which is all around creating maximum impact the nice way.

Live a successful, purposeful, and fully charged life every day.

Your Coach, 


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